Floyd Friends Meeting Spiritual State of the Meeting Reports

The text of recently received Spiritual State of the Meeting Reports are below, with the most recently received at the top and older reports below. To jump to a particular report, simply click the year listed below.

2011 Report 2012 Report
2013 Report 2014 Report

2014 Report

A few weeks ago, as Clerk of Ministry and Worship, I posed the following five questions to all members and attenders of Floyd Friends. I have collated, with little editing, the following responses. We are sending then to Baltimore Yearly Meeting in this form without further editing. I think the answers indicate that the full spectrum of experience is owned and honored at Floyd Friends.

Sharon Custer-Boggess, Clerk of Ministry and Worship

1. Do you feel nurtured and valued at Floyd Friends?

(Each bullet indicates a different response.)

  • People smile and hug me at rise of meeting. I felt listened to in Quaker 101.
  • Yes, I do and always have. During the time I was working and could not be fully engaged, I felt much supported by the members/attenders who were active. That continued through the illness and death of my spouse, and then has reappeared as the Meeting has begun to actively support a leading I have followed.
  • Yes. When my brother died and I asked for assistance with food, the community provided me meals, love and support.
  • With the death of my son last year, my journeys to Floyd became an important time to center myself, not only in nature, but also in the Friends Meeting. While I didn't always arrive in time for gathered worship, I always took time to enter the Meeting House to sit in silent meditation and feel at home again. Those times have been very special to me and have allowed me to go forward in my grief in a Quakerly way. I can honestly say last year was the greatest year of my life because of that inner journey.
  • I have always been accepted just as I am at Floyd Friends, even though my spiritual path has been more nurtured by Buddhist teachings than those of Christianity (as I have experienced the latter). I always expected Quakers to become defensive about my questioning but that never happened at Floyd Friends.
  • My heart and my house are on the map of Floyd Friends Meeting.
  • I feel a depth at our Friends meeting that I have not found in other places. No matter how long I am away, when I walk through the doors and sit in fellowship with other Friends, I know it is where my Spirit is supposed to be. Even at a distance when I travel I feel I am nurtured by Floyd Friends meeting.
  • Ministry and Counsel has been very diligent and has spent time in seeking clarity for all concerns brought forward.

2. What in our community supports your soul? In what ways is the Meeting doing this less than you wish it would?

  • Floyd Friends have steady Friends who attend to the life of Floyd and give when called on. I like the idea we have agreed to only endorse a project if specific needs are met, as in the breakfast for Skyline staff.
  • Knowledge of the work of Plenty! makes me feel supported by Friends ‘Spirit’.
  • I was helped a great deal with an essay I wrote about personal convictions.
  • Since Floyd Friends have decided not to have a “suffering fund” line in the budget I wish they would publish on a regular basis that money is available to those in need if they request it. I have not asked this of meeting because I get the feeling others are tired of me talking about it.
  • In Meeting for Worship, although I rarely reach a deep state of openness to the divine. I am especially aware of the quality of the silence when I enter with the children near the end of worship. I really enjoyed the Worship Sharing before Meeting for Worship and regret that it has come to an end. And I value our adult education programs.
  • The love we have for one another. The involvement in Meeting for Business. Nothing less than I wish it would (except I wish parents were more involved and brought their children more regularly.)
  • My personal challenge is: Where do the words "God" and "Holy Spirit" fit into my experience and sharing at Floyd Friends Meeting?
  • I continue to search for a comfortable way to refer to soul, inner teacher, true self. I think I have settled on mystery. I would welcome hearing more people at Floyd Friends speak of their personal experience with that mystery.
  • I feel completely buoyed by the knowledge of our extremely diverse backgrounds which include Catholic, Protestant, Mormon, Mennonite and Buddhist heritages to name a few.
    Out of deference at best and perhaps some insecurity at worst, I sense that we tend to tiptoe around the vocabulary of our spiritual journeys. Some of us have experienced severe pruning. But I feel the welcoming message of Quakerism as an inclusive and expansive widening. I feel that the more ways we describe our experiences the better we defined them and I welcome the faith lexicon from other friends' paths.
  • I have always been touched deep in my heart by the level of compassion for the simplicity of our state as humans at our Friends meeting. The challenges we have inside ourselves, the decisions we need to make as a meeting and our communications with other Friends in our meeting are all met with something I do not have words for. It is like the river’s current, you might not see it on top but you can feel it deep and ever present within. Knowing this is there deeply nourishes my soul.
    At times I stumble and feel alone in my journey at Meeting and would like to see and hear more conversations around our spiritual journeys. I am happy for the diversity we have, yet at times I struggle with not being able to have more biblical explorations with other Friends. I know that all I have to do is reach out and our meeting will be there for me. The real challenge is for me to learn how to reach out.
  • When Friend Chloe was endorsed by meeting, Floyd Friends were generous in monetary support, however, only two Friends, other than Friends already part of PFLAG, came to support her during her talk at the Parade Event. That felt strange in light of the fact that she was a traveling minister for Aldelpi Meeting.

3. Does your Inner teacher manifest itself in your individual life and/or in the community of Floyd Friends?

  • Unfortunately, my soul is more nourished by outside activities than in Floyd Friends activities, except for certain Religious Education sessions.
  • I think that it does, although I am not as skilled in discerning its lessons as I would like to be.
  • I don’t use this term, but yes. When I am away, I feel I lose touch – but that is my fault – not the Meeting’s.
  • I value my participation in intimate sharings in a Covenant Group and in the numerous Clearness Committees in the past year. I have no doubt that my soul is more easily welcomed and heard when I am sitting quietly with others who are also welcoming theirs.
  • I felt led to find Floyd Friends Meeting and continue to feel led in the meeting: a symphony of sweet empathy in word and deed.
  • Yes, I feel this teacher in so many aspects of my life; I am so thankful. The waiting in expectant silence at Meeting is a time that I feel this presence often. Feeling held in the light as we worship, I am able to see my stumbling blocks more clearly. The gift of our quiet meeting has enabled me to more deeply discern when a message is for me alone or is for me to share in worship for others to hear. When a message is shared in our meeting, its truth can be felt like a thickness come and pass. I feel Spirit moving in our adult discussions, meetings for business, in covenant meetings and in clearness meetings.
  • I miss the Meeting for Healing Roanoke Friends use to support. As Floyd Friends are mostly a silent meeting with very little verbal ministry, I no longer have a way to “interface” with Spirit on a regular basis, now that Meeting for Healing isn’t part of Roanoke’s meeting.

4. Does Floyd Friends encourage you to bring “that of God” into political or difficult conversations?

  • Absolutely. It is all of the years of Quaker training that I have had, and the support of people who take the commitment to the Testimonies seriously, which makes it possible for me to see the "opposition" that I deal with in my advocacy work as children of God and not as enemies.
  • Yes, by our bringing up difficult conversations and having F/friends share their own stories of doing this.
  • Floyd Friends Meeting has birthed the Quaker Testimonies to action in my life: candlelight vigils at the courthouse, meetings with public officials, letters to legislators, petitions and political action for environmental issues, planning for reducing the carbon footprint of our meeting, community advocacy for LGBT issues, community outreach and service, newspaper announcements, etc.
  • I witness Friends at our meeting bringing “That of God” into action all the time. I have seen it politically with a local Veterinary school or PFLAG or resisting pipelines, building a local fresh food pantry and other advocacy work Friends are doing in their lives. I have no trouble using these words “that of God” when I witness what Friends are doing. When I participate in challenging decisions at meeting I feel “that of God” being a corner stone, especially if weighty Friends are involved in the discussion.
  • I don't know of any political talk at Floyd meeting. The only difficult conversations I've been part of have been asking about things that are not the agenda during Meeting for Business.

5. Do we accept seekers and help them on their spiritual journey?

  • I hope so. I know there was a seeker who was struggling with the unprogrammed Quaker approach. I hope he felt that his questioning was welcomed and responded to.
  • Thanks to a clarification of what an unprogrammed meeting is on the web site, my comfort level has resumed and I look forward to worshiping with Floyd Friends when I return to the area.
  • I think we could do more to reach out to seekers. I feel a great deal of gratitude to a seeker who recently asked why we have a Bible on display in our Worship space. As I sought personal answers to that question, I embraced for the first time in my life an appreciation for the teachings and actions of the fully human Jesus.
  • As a meeting I sensed a traditional reticence to 'go public.' I think we have made progress in selectively sharing the programs we have through newspaper announcements which have been appreciated by kindred souls. I feel that the meeting is sensitive to mentoring or shepherding instinctively for the continuing nourishment of new and old attenders. I am glad to see requests and special needs made known through emails. I would like to hear from less vocal folks more often. I would like to do a better job of sharing the exemplary work of Friends national legislation and service committees.
  • Yes, I think so. I do see the challenges of needing to dig deep to learn more about Friends since we are an unprogrammed, meeting. We are also very quiet about things in general and do more sharing of our faith by doing rather than explaining. I think some Friends in our meeting do not choose to learn more about our history and Friend processes and thus struggle to understand how to share these when new people want to learn more. I did love that I was directed to a book shelf instead of a pastor’s office when I first began attending meeting. I appreciated that I had to be the one who initiated and asked questions about Friends. There was no push and not really any hand holding, but I quickly found support once I started learning where to look, who to ask, and what to start reading. The method was perfect for me, but it was challenging and at times.

2013 Report

The calendar year of 2013 was a rich one for Floyd Friends. Our membership grew by one member, but it seemed as though it were more because our attendees were plentiful and very active. Children were so regular in attendance that we began considering near the end of the year whether we should provide regular paid child care for Meeting for Worship and Adult Discussions. For years we have had many Meetings when no children were present. The decision to go out on faith and provide childcare, thinking that the decision might help children and their parents attend more often, was a big one.

In addition to the energy provided by children, the meeting house became a livelier place in other ways. An attender regularly provided guitar music during shared meals. Singing, spontaneously as an expression of worship as well as at the circle at rise of meeting, became part of the fabric of our gatherings.

New energy also revitalized the physical building and landscape. The newcomers were able to see with fresh eyes that our building and grounds had become a bit run-down. The building foundation was even raised a few inches and a problem with moisture at the foundation level was corrected. Community work days resulted in our brick entrance being repaired; the walkway was made beautiful with rocks in a Zen-style.

Floyd Friends has had a presence in a number of LGBTQ issues including a candlelight vigil at the county courthouse. One of our members has represented us at the Floyd Ministerial Association meetings. A simple meal of beans and rice was prepared one month, with donations for attendance being given to our local food bank; an Adult Discussion on the testimony of simplicity followed.

Members were supported in times of need: one member lost her home to a fire, one attendee dealt with chronic and severely debilitating illness, another had a baby. Food prepared by Friends supported them through their challenges and transitions. Clearness committees were gathered 3 times during the year and the process blessed each person who participated.

Members helped connect Floyd Friends to the wider Quaker community by attending Baltimore Yearly Meeting’ Annual Session and by taking advantage of FGC’s Quaker Cloud website. BYM input helped us decide to tackle the issue of child safety, specifically in terms of protection from any inappropriate actions towards them. This will be a slow careful process which is not completed as of this writing. We are committed to grappling with how to honor ‘that of God in every person’ yet facing the possibility that our precious children could be harmed. We want to provide a safe place in a way which does not involve our becoming overly suspicious or fearful.

Deep spiritual growth has been encouraged by a number of Worship Sharing sessions which were held prior to First Day Meetings for Worship. Also, our two Covenant groups met monthly and a third is planned for parents of small children.

The year ended with something that has become a custom for Floyd Friends, New Year’s Eve worship and shared meal. The building was filled with singing, children laughing and good food, an ending to the year which was in keeping with the rest of the year.

2012 Report

  1. Membership – 2012 was an active year for us with 2 members joining and 2 founding members who had not attended for several years transferring their membership. Several new people began attending regularly this year, adding to the vitality of the group as they added their energy to our support of people in same gender relationships and to a new practice of worship sharing.

  2. Worship sharing – After several attenders and members expressed an interest in facilitating greater sharing within our mostly silent community of worship, an attender researched this accepted Quaker practice and suggested that we try incorporating it into our worship. She has led most of the sessions which are held a half hour before our regular First Day worship hours. She has chosen a piece of poetry or other inspirational or thought provoking piece of prose and has emailed them to members and attenders during the week before Meeting. A small number of people have regularly attended and shared in a round-robin manner what the piece brought up for them. This practice has led to more people speaking than has been the habit in our regular First Day Meetings; at the minimum the sense of community seems to be enhanced.

  3. Same gender relationship advocacy – After months of discussion and seasoning, Floyd Friends decided to submit an article to the Floyd Press concerning our willingness to perform same gender weddings. The article spoke to the injustice of same gender marriages not being performed in Virginia. We also had a booth at Gay Pride Day in Roanoke and agreed to be listed online with Equality in Virginia and gaychurches.org.

  4. Floyd Ministerial Association – One of our members regularly attended this group’s monthly meetings. Her presence at this meeting which is composed of many who are more conservative than Floyd Friends seemed to bear witness to our testimonies. When the group had a heated discussion of the article Floyd Friends submitted to the Floyd Press about same gender marriage, her presence seemed to be calming, possibly because she listened without judgment and spoke without rancor. Rather than denouncing Floyd Friends’ position in the paper (which was suggested) the Ministerial Association wrote a milder letter saying that they disagreed with us. Three area ministers later wrote a letter to our member supporting our position. Toward the end of the year, our delegate to the Ministerial Association moved from the area and we decided to continue to send a representative.

  5. Adult Education – We looked for ways to enable more members to attend these monthly discussions. We alternated meeting on Sunday after Meeting for Worship one month and on a weekday evening the next month. Some this year included Different Faith Perspectives on Non-Violence and Common Ground between Quakerism and Buddhism.

  6. First Day School – Attendance continues to be low. Only one pre-school age child has attended regularly. Although several people have offered to teach First Day School, children have attended sporadically and people have not tended to have prepared lessons for the variety of ages that might present on any given First Day. Serving our children continues to be a dilemma we have not solved. At one point the parents of children suggested that they planned to focus on getting their children to Meeting on 1st and 3rd First Days so that teachers could count on having students those days. This approach has not seemed to work.

  7. Dish washer – Our ancient dish washer died this year. We decided to put into action our testimony of simplicity by not replacing it. Several people have commented that they enjoy the sense of community which they experience as people share the washing of dishes after shared meals, often singing as they do so.

  8. Time Bank – One of our members put into action a program she read about in AARP magazine called Time Bank. It encourages people at Floyd Friends to offer skills they have. An hour of work is equal in value, regardless of what it is. Participants can then draw upon hours when they have needs. It is hoped that this program will at least allow Floyd Friends to share needs and abilities. If this pilot program works well, it may be offered to the larger Floyd community.

  9. Political activism – Floyd Friends wrote a letter to Senator John Warner asking that he maintain the plan of the 2011 Budget Control Act to reduce military spending. One of our attenders scheduled a meeting with Senator Warner’s aide and said that she felt she was listened to. The aide then explained why the Senator might not be able to agree with our request.

  10. Peace and Social Concerns donations – We continued our practice of making a mid-year local donation, this year to the SNAP Double Match program which subsidizes eligible people being able to purchase locally grown food at the Floyd Farmer’s Market. The end of year donation was made to the American Friends Service Committee’s West Virginia Economic Justice Project which focuses on opposition to mountain top removal.

  11. Covenant Groups – There has been a Covenant Group comprised of four members and attenders of Floyd Friends for the past 4 years. Each person found that the intimate setting and monthly meetings supported her spiritual path in a powerful way. The group decided to split and offer membership as two new groups to those interested in making the regular investment of time and energy. Enough people responded to support two groups. One group decided to close membership until September 2013, one group decided to remain open to new members.

In summary, Spirit seems to be moving in members and attenders at Floyd Friends and the community at large is benefitted.

2011 Report

State of the Meeting Report 2012

We continue to feel the spirit prospering among us. We remain a small group, but have added one new member and one new devoted attender. We are still a group of varied backgrounds, education levels, and ages, and find that this adds to our enjoyment of our diversity. We are accepting of all, and no one feels intimidated when sharing their ideas or beliefs. We value the varied viewpoints.

Our meetings for worship are nourished with a deep silence. Messages are welcome, but are not given every First Day. People often remark about the richness of our silence. We continue to ask for thoughts of joys or concerns about ten minutes before the rise of meeting, and frequently there are spoken words at this time. We also have the clerk read the monthly query about ten minutes after meeting has opened, in order to give a possible direction for thought. Some of us have felt a lack of music, so we have started singing a song before we leave the circle after meeting. We choose a simple song and sing it for about a month before going on to a new one, with the idea that we may remember it and carry it with us through the week. Our toddler is captivated by the music.

We have enjoyed our monthly adult study discussions, but people are becoming more involved in community activities and are becoming increasingly busy. We are struggling to find a time for these discussions when most can attend. We are evaluating methods of dealing with this problem.

Our first day school has become poorly attended, but we continue to try to find ways to show our regard for our children.

We continue to have a covenant group that meets monthly. Those involved derive great support from this intimate approach.

We have made a tradition of greeting the New Year with a half hour silent worship followed by a shared meal, starting at 6:00 p m. This early hour allows the children to participate, and the adults to be home early.

We continue to have quite a few trying family sorrows among our relative small group. We are able to give emotional support through a prayer circle that meets one evening a week, at times in actuality in the meeting house and at other times in virtuality. When actual assistance is needed, the group is quick to respond, even when the need is on going. The burial committee was able to be of assistance on the death of a member’s spouse.