Sandy Spring Friends Meeting Spiritual State of the Meeting Reports
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After nearly a decade of striving with complex issues, we have settled into a more unified time at Meeting. The years of change have winnowed our Meeting and we, like so many other meetings, are examining our work with an eye toward simplifying our focus. At the same time, we are expanding into the community of BYM and into the world community and returning with a fullness of Spirit.
In anticipation of the renovation of our community house, we moved the 11:00 Meeting for Worship to the Ashton Meeting House at Sandy Spring Friends School, in the fall of 2014. The numbers of Friends attending Meeting on First Day have become fewer since the move. This Meeting still benefits from the exuberant presence of families with children. Young Friends are a particularly engaged group, with several members serving on committees. We are heartened by their presence. First Day School is integral to the life of the Spirit at this Meeting. Listening to our youngest Friends prompts us to access God with their simplicity and confidence.
Meetings for Worship at the Friends House Worship Group at 10:00 on First Days continues to be deep and rich in the Divine Presence. This meeting welcomes everyone into worship Friends who have moved to Friends House and residents from other faiths.
The 9:00 AM First Day Meeting at the Sandy Spring Meeting House has grown in size. Friends are drawn to this Meeting by their sense of connection to the Meeting House and to each other through years of communion in the deep stillness of this Meeting for Worship.
The Fifth Day pot luck dinner and Meeting for Worship draws a faithful group who delight in fellowship and in worship.
Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business is well attended, worshipful and productive. It is a regular reassurance of the wisdom of the Inward Teacher when we are still and listening. It is a testimony to the tenacity of our deep roots and our commitment to one another.
Memorial Meetings for Worship welcome many to our Meetings who are not Friends, but are often sparsely attended by members of the Meeting. These meetings for worships are gathered around the way members of the passing generation let their lives speak. Our presence or absence at the memorials also speaks to our strength as a community during this sacred time of transition.
We are grateful for the blessing of many Friends – from youth to the aged - in our many Meetings for Worship. Whereever we choose to worship, we take comfort in the familiar rhythms of the restive beginning, the quiet settling and the deep gathering into the Divine Presence.
Friends who are new to Meeting come to us with fresh eyes. They often remind us of the power that lies in the stillness of our waiting worship. They remind us that heightened expectation leaves us more open to the still small voice. They remind us that Quaker process is profound and a model for working in the world.
Some Friends from our Meeting went to visit a group of Nicaraguan peace workers. At this visit, Friends invited peace workers to a retreat, conducted workshops and did hands-on healing work. Our new Nicaraguan friends commented that this was the first time that a group of outsiders came to them and did not try to change them or take something away from them.
This ministry of presence is strong in our Meeting. Friends participate in inter-visitation within FUM, FGC and BYM. We sit in kitchens and dining rooms, boardrooms and hospital bedsides. We go into the world and create room for the Infinite, and return to our Meeting enriched. When we go into the silent world of nature and allow ourselves to experience its beauty and wonder, we know God.
As we experience the Light in the everyday world, it brings us into the joyous present and we prime the pump of the Living Waters and return to our Meetings refreshed. At times when we may feel the world is an ocean of darkness, we carry the Light always. Friends relay the spiritual practice of deep listening into the world - we stay with the Light - without expectation for cure, but trusting in its transformative healing power.
“Wherever two or more are gathered to worship, the Spirit is there. The Spirit is with us always.” So a Friend reminded us as we gathered to consider how the spirit prospers in our Monthly Meeting. We come together delighting in the opportunity to be with people quietly gathered, seeking God.
Because of our Community House’s construction project, we have been temporarily holding some Meetings for Worship, including Meeting at eleven o’clock on first day, in Ashton Meeting House on the campus of Sandy Spring Friends School. This has been strange and difficult for us at times. We are grateful to Sandy Spring Friends School for opening their campus to us. We love our Sandy Spring Meeting House, and many Friends feel a deep spiritual connection to this building. As one Friend said, our Meeting House feels like home. There is spiritual power in this, and while we strive for deep listening and spiritual seeking wherever we gather, we cannot deny that our Meeting House is special to us. One Friend said simply. “I miss the clock”. The old clock on the north wall of the Meeting House, ticking softly and steadily, wound and attended to by generations of Friends, symbolizes perhaps a meeting of the physical and the spiritual that may take place in Meeting for Worship.
In the hustle and bustle of our large Meeting, Friends worship regularly in the Sandy Spring Meeting House, in the adjacent school house building, at Friends House’s Miller Center and at Ashton Meeting House on the Sandy Spring Friends School Campus. One may find Friends worshiping together quietly on the porches of any of these buildings, or on benches beside the graveyard, or as they walk down a path. Our Meeting covers a large expanse of ground and interacts with the surrounding community. When we say our Meeting is large, we usually mean that it has many members for a Friends Meeting. But it is also physically large, because of its association with the Sandy Spring Friends School and the Friends House Retirement Community. We have had the opportunity to rejoice in this largeness this year, as circumstances have caused us to meet for worship in different locations on our campuses.
But we have also learned and grown through our use of the Ashton Meeting House. Because it is on the campus of the school, many Friends have developed a closer relationship with the school community. As part of this deepening relationship, we have taken under our care Upper School Meeting for Worship at Sandy Spring Friends School. Friends from our Meeting have been worshipping with the students during their twice-weekly Meetings for Worship, and all have reported this as an excellent and spiritually deepening development. This year has been an opportunity to reflect on the beauty of the generational diversity in our Meeting, which brings together people associated with the school and the retirement community. This provides a unique opportunity to learn from each other, and trust we can sustain this relationship with the school community when our construction project is complete.
This year has not been all change and transition. Many Friends continue to delight in Mid-week Meeting for Worship and nine o’clock Meeting for Worship, which still take place at the Sandy Spring Meeting House. Whether we worship at Miller Center at 10 o’clock on First Day or at Sandy Spring Meeting House at seven thirty on Fifth Day, or whether we find ourselves in an eleven o’clock Meeting with fifty visitors and giggling children, or in a small impromptu worship group on the porch of the Community House, we strive to know each other as partners in seeking, as Friends in community, and as parts of a spiritual whole.
This year Friends gathered in a retreat to reflect on how the spirit prospers among us. Going into this retreat, Ministry and Counsel discussed with humility the fact that we are tasked as individuals and as a committee to determine the spiritual state of the Meeting as a community. We wondered whether any of us were up to the task of understanding the Meeting as a whole, when we all see it through our individual perspectives and experiences. We reflected that mere words often fall short in describing the experience of the gathered Meeting, whether it is a large group of Friends or only two Friends sitting together. One Friend offered a profound and humorous rejoinder to this problem, saying that, because we know the spiritual state of the Meeting cannot be communicated perfectly through words, we are free to accept our humble attempt to describe it as the best we can do. In that spirit, here are the thoughts, reflections, and ideas we gathered from listening to Friends speak about how the spirit prospers in our Meeting.
To begin with, we are conscious with this year’s report that we are trying to discern how the spirit prospers with the Meeting as a corporate body. The Meeting is made up of individuals, with whom we may speak about their personal experiences, but the Meeting itself speaks to us as well. The problem, of course, is that it does not always speak in words. Thus the process of listening to the Meeting as a corporate body is the same as the process of listening to God. We can listen carefully for that still, small voice that might reveal to us a message that might be spoken aloud, or might be held in our hearts to be shared at another time, or might be for us alone. But God also exists in the mysterious journey that we sometimes undertake without understanding it, and without being able to put it in words. And the Meeting is there, and speaking, whether we can write down what it says or not.
And yet, often the strongest spiritual understanding and love comes through our deep connection to each other as individuals, through our committees, through our Friendly Eight groups, through our first day school classes, through the conversations we have with each other on the porch. Sometimes the Meeting speaks quite clearly and explicitly, and though we speak friend to friend without anyone else there, we know that we are also hearing the Meeting speak. This is the mystery and the wonder of being part of a corporate body that comes together as one, and can sometimes move with a singular purpose that is astonishing to behold.
This is not to say, of course, that we always agree with each other, understand each other’s truths, or even always like each other. There are disagreements in our meeting, and because we are charged to be honest with each other, and because we know each other as equals in ministry, there are times when we listen to each other, and discuss with each other, and even argue with each other for a long time without coming to a common understanding. There are wounds between us that are in various stages of healing. As individuals, we sometimes bring our wounds to Meeting with us when we worship. We do our best to answer that of God even in those with whom we disagree, but this is not easy. Our community begins with the idea that love is the first motion, and that we come together with the knowledge that God loves us all. We go forward with that knowledge, and we do our best to remember it.
There are also concerns about the continued sustenance of our meeting’s spiritual and physical resources. We have been working for many years now on a construction project that will improve our facilities, with many Friends contributing time, money, and expertise to an undertaking that will provide us with a better space to meet in our committees, educate our children in first day school, socialize with each other, and welcome in the wider community. The inherent difficulty of such a massive undertaking has been daunting at times, and the realization of our goals has seemed very far in the future. Thanks to the hard work of Friends, we continue to move forward, but can this energy be sustained? We have had trouble filling slots on many of our committees; does this reflect exhaustion of our membership? Financial contributions continue to flow in, but this is a result of more money coming from a smaller group of donors; is this sustainable? We are building for the future, but will this future be as vibrant for the Meeting as its present? Friends have reminded us many times that we proceed on faith, just as our forebears in the Meeting did, but the path of faithfulness about our collective future can be just as difficult as the path of seeing that of God in those with whom we disagree. Friends have also reminded us of the power of invitation. By inviting Friends and visitors to engage in the work of the Meeting, we offer them, not a burden, but a sense of purpose and the gift of belonging.
What sustains us, and what gathers us even in our difficulties, is the delicious discovery of the God within, the living Christ. Our attempts to come together may not always be totally successful. Everyone is somewhere on the road between wilderness and home, between chaos and Love. The Meeting likewise is somewhere between empty silence and the warm deep gatheredness that we long for. But when we do listen for that still small voice, and when we make sure that we listen for it often enough, and for long enough a time; when we listen even in the painful places, and then have the courage to answer lovingly and faithfully; when we remember to do our tasks, the big and the small, diligently and faithfully; these are the times when we as individuals come together as a corporate body, and this is where we can speak of Sandy Spring Monthly Meeting.
“I come to Meeting to drink of the silence and connect with others whose spirits are shining and an example for me. When I don't come I feel I am dying of thirst. When I come to Meeting I feel embraced and loved, and it reminds me to look for these when I am not here.” – A Friend at Sandy Spring Friends Meeting Mid‐Week Meeting for Worship
As Friends gathered in worship this year to contemplate the question of how the Spirit prospers among us, and how that Spirit is manifested in our lives both individually and as a community, we heard messages of hope, gratitude, concern, love, and seeking. It is our sense that the Meeting is coming out of a period of difficulty, into the Light of a quickening of Spirit. Friends shared their hope for the future of our children, gratitude for the support the meeting community provides, concern for the overextended and busy character of the lives of many friends these days, love for each other, and messages of seeking that sought to understand how friends should live in the modern world. The theme that threaded itself through these messages was the sense of the Spirit’s Divine guidance, encountered
in our worshipful silence.
A beauty of our Meeting is the diversity of opportunities for Worship and choices for answering Friends’ spiritual and personal needs. Each of our Meetings offer communion with God and one another. We gather in two Meetings for Worship on First Day at the Meeting House, at 9:00 and 11:00 am, a Meeting for Worship at Miller Center at Friends House retirement community. An evening mid‐week Meeting on Fifth Day provides another opportunity for worshipping together, with Young Adult Friends offering a potluck dinner. This year the preparative Meeting at Seneca Valley under the care of Sandy Spring Monthly Meeting was laid down. As a friend said in worship, “there are times when the Spirit may seem to ebb or flow”, and this has been true for our Meeting as we allow Way to Open.
The scope of our Meeting activities for Friends of many ages, interests, and backgrounds is indicative of how the Spirit prospers with us. There are many opportunities for fellowship which contribute to the life of the Meeting, such as teaching first day school or serving on a committee or assisting or attending an event. A friend described this experience this way: “I find these settings allow me to get to know others and to form bonds with them. There seem to be mixed experiences and how they come together, or how I fit into all of it is a question to me.” This friend expresses the complementary impulses we all feel of wanting to be a part of one whole Meeting experiencing the one whole Spirit, while being a part of a smaller group in the Meeting, so that we can know each other as individuals.
One of the things Meeting provides is a way to learn from each other, or as one Friend described as seeing “Remarkable lives worth emulating – lives of commitment.” Our spiritual vitality as a Meeting is exhibited in the commitments we keep to the Meeting and to the community at large. Our Meeting has supported local organizations like Aunt Hattie’s place, the American Friends Service Committee, and our friends in Africa’s Great Lakes Region, to name a few. These represent ways we let our lives speak through collective action. We also heard a concern for our living our testimony of community by tending to individuals in the Meeting, the Meeting as a whole and the wider community outside of Friends. When barriers exist to our living in the Light they dampen our experience of Spirit and sense of connection.
We have learned from each other how to live as Friends, and it is through each other that we have found the Spirit that we take with us out of Meeting and into the world. Our Spirit does not thrive in a vacuum. One of the challenges presented to our Meeting is to continually communicate with each other. One factor in this challenge that is repeated every year is the size of our Meeting. There is a responsibility to seek out what is going on for an individual or the Meeting – and a responsibility to communicate what is going on. When this communication exchange is open and full, we feel the Spirit rise in our personal exchanges as well as during Meeting for Worship and Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business.
We will close with the words of another friend, offered in meeting for worship: “The Meeting has created a place for us to be – a place to be more spiritual beings...A sense of timelessness – losing the sense of time and place – a sense of letting go of our ego to embrace the Spirit. You have a better chance of finding the Spirit in silence, in collective silence – you are in the presence of other speakers. When that energy ignites, you have the gathered meeting. People are led to say how much this means
to them – that is the testimony of the gathered meeting.”
And so we need each other, our collective self, and our ministry, to experience Meeting for Worship and the Spirit that flows through it. In a Gathered Meeting, we are revealed to God, and God is revealed to us. In this way Spirit flows whether we gather in large or small numbers.
We learn our Meeting’s spiritual state through listening to the ways Meeting members and attenders experience Meeting. We have heard about our community gathering in worship, teaching and learning in First Day School, serving on committees, preparing and sitting down to pot luck meals, gathering in small groups to study texts, listening to visiting speakers, working to tend our physical space, and many other experiences of great spiritual significance. Our large Meeting seems always to be in motion, and we all look to the centering deep silence of Meeting for Worship to anchor us. Many Friends do find the Meeting continues to be much calmer and warmer than a few years ago.
On any given First Day morning, a small group of Friends will gather at Meeting for Worship at nine o’clock, committees will meet at ten, and then at eleven o’clock a larger group of Friends gather for worship. The children of the meeting leave during eleven o’clock meeting to attend First Day School. Also during eleven o’clock Meeting, friends will be working in the kitchen to prepare for our noontime social hour. At the rise of Meeting, we greet each other in the Community House. In the midst of this, the question is always, how can we come together to form one community? How do our many parts make a whole?
A COMMITMENT TO WORSHIP
Meeting for Worship nurtures the Spirit and our relationship to God. As we gather in the various Meetings for Worship, we will get a different experience depending on which Meeting for Worship we have decided to attend. The Miller Center Worship at Friends House and the mid-week Meeting for Worship tend to have deep silence; eleven o’clock Meeting for Worship tends to have more messages. The feeling that arises during worship, which may lead to a message, is unique, powerful, and singular. It is the primary reason we come together.
Friends do feel that there is a renewed sense of seeking for more spirit-led worship in the Meeting. Some Friends feel that it is difficult for the Meeting to remain relevant to the spiritual needs of the community when we get caught up in worldly affairs and conflicts. Others feel, like James, that “Faith without works is dead” (James 2:14-17). Some Friends feel that communication within the Meeting needs to be more forthright and direct.
There is always a deep concern in the Meeting that messages arise directly from the Spirit. One Friend’s message may inspire another, but this is not always the case. The question has arisen among some Friends of whether the meeting has a voice. Is it a single voice, or a composite of many voices? We are always yearning for a richer sense of community that provides the environment for ourselves and our children to make lasting friends and internalize Quaker values.
Meeting for Business is a way to build community as we make decisions impacting our Meeting. We continue to be challenged by Quaker process. One may learn how to do the business of the meeting by learning about other Friends’ insights and leadings. There are times when friends feel marginalized, such as when a lengthy approval process does not easily lead to a sense of the Meeting. The discernment process for the building project has at times been frustrating, with the ever-expanding costs associated with the project currently beyond our means leaving us with uncertainty as to the way forward. Friends reflect that it has been hard to hear of conflict in our Meeting, but that part of membership is learning to listen to criticism from each other and of the Meeting itself.
There are clearly very strong and spiritual concerns that motivate our membership, at times pulling us in different directions. Our Meeting is large and geographically diverse, which creates both challenges and opportunities. There are so many activities that it can be a challenge to maintain effective communication. "Niches" such as Bible Study, Woolman class, ballroom dancing, Community Life events, First Day School and committee service provide the opportunity to stay involved. After attending for many years, some still feel like they are "getting to know" people. Friends try to remember that it is the responsibility of all to greet newcomers and to get to know others outside of our smaller circles.
The physical space of the Meeting and grounds has an effect on all of us. The graveyard and Memorial Grove are places of reflection, and the grounds overall need a lot of care. Friends come together finding spiritual meaning in the labor of the upkeep of the grounds: working in the flower beds, restoring old graves, or maintaining paths. Thanks to the hard work of Friends, there is not as much clutter in the Community House and this makes for less clutter spiritually.
FINDING ONE’S PLACE IN THE MEETING
With so many different activities within the Meeting, how do Friends choose what to work on? Is it possible to say what are the most important projects? How best do we lead, inform and inspire other Friends, who are perhaps willing to help but unsure what to do? How do we strengthen the relationship among Friends who attend different Meetings for Worship at different times? How do we better integrate the different sub-communities within the Meeting, such as children, elders, parents, new members, and others?
There is a sense that the First Day School community is thriving, with lots of families with young children who appear to be happy and learning. There is also a concern to strengthen the relationship with teenagers and young adults, encouraging them to stay connected.
Coffee hour after Meeting for Worship, pot luck meals, refreshments after Meetings for Worship and other special events such as Memorial Meetings and weddings all provide sustenance to nurture the body and spirit. Friends who serve on Hospitality and other committees feel spiritually enriched by the work they do to support these activities. We try to be conscious of the need to support and nurture Friends who serve the Meeting, and to make sure that we seek to help when and where we can. In other words, we must let our lives speak the love we have for each other.